It’s been a while

So I kind of fell off the wagon again.  I got a promotion at work and have pretty much been sucked into that.  But here’s a look at all the engagement photos we got back.  We plan on doing another shoot at some point in Tulsa, so we can get a little bit of that “big city” buzz… hahaha.  We had a family member do these, Richard’s cousin and it was a great experience.  The shoot was at their families farm and it is beautiful out there!  The only unfortunate part is we didn’t get to take as many photos as we wanted due to weather and our hectic schedules.  Oh well, what we got was great! Enjoy!Richard&Whitney (1 of 1)-3 Richard&Whitney (1 of 1)-4 Richard&Whitney (1 of 1)-5 Richard&Whitney (1 of 1)-6 Richard&Whitney (1 of 1)-7


Music Monday: Going to the Chapel

This weekend we met with and decided on our wedding officiate.  It is so ridiculously exciting to check things off our to-do list!  This week’s Music Monday is in honor of the latest task we’ve accomplished.  This is the quintessential marriage song, “Chapel of Love” by the Dixie Cups.  We’re not getting married in a chapel but the point is WE’RE GETTING MARRIED!  I know that there is TONS more to do but as each decision gets made it seems like my mental image of our wedding day begins to get a little less fuzzy.

The ceremony is the most important part of the day but until Sunday morning when we were walking to meet our officiate candidate we had never really discussed what we wanted to include.  Would we include prayers, bible verses, a unity ceremony?  Would we prefer traditional vows where we repeat after the officiate, or just say, “I Do” or would we like to do our own vows?  So many things that we’d never even thought about until those 30 minutes before we would be bombarded with these questions.  The good thing is we have plenty of time to really decide what we want and don’t want.  We’re excited about our choice, Donna Deen of Two Oaks Weddings.  She was so easy-going and eager to meet all our expectations and demands for the ceremony.  Not only that but she was well within our price range and had great backup plans.  (I’m positive that as many things as possible will try to fall through on our wedding day, it’s just my luck.  I’ve been checking and double checking that anyone we sign a contract with has an acceptable contingency plan for any unexpected occurrences.)  As we walked home following our meeting I kept humming this song to myself.

Photo Shoot Styling

This isn’t directly wedding related but you have to take engagement photos before a wedding so this counts… sorta. Engagement photo outfits and themes are all I can think about since we finally set a date for one of our engagement shoots today. A friend who just happens to be an awesome photographer will be in town for a couple months starting in November so he’ll be doing one of our shoots.  We’ll be doing another one at Richard’s family farm and another in Norman on OU’s campus and on campus corner.

Since Richard got accepted into Med School I realized that my dream of having a fall wedding will not happen.  He has no fall breaks and after this next summer he will no longer have a summer break either.  So instead, I’ll make do with some super cute fall engagement photos! I can’t wait! Fall is my absolute favorite time of the year!  The temps are perfect!  The colors are beautiful!  And everyone looks so amazing in fall fashions!  I’m posting a few inspiration images.  I’ve always heard it’s a good idea to set a theme for your engagement shoots so you can choose appropriate props and outfits.  Let me know what you think and if you have any theme suggestions!


Via IndieJane Photography


Via Gilmor Engagement


Via Shop Ruche


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Guest Book Ideas

There are many decisions that have yet to be made but I’m thinking the guest book is definitely one of the things we’re sure about.  The guest book is something that every wedding has and it’s a great opportunity to get creative.  Too often guest books are the same old same old but a quick peek on Pinterest shows many people are stepping away from traditional.

A Beautiful Mess

Via A Beautiful Mess

One of my favorite blogs, A Beautiful Mess, featured an out of the box guest book idea.  One of the blog writers, Emma, recently got married and of course her wedding was filled with a wonderful DIY spirit and unique ideas, like the guest book.  Though it’s not my cup of tea I really appreciate the creativity here.  Plus, Emma is using her “book” as an art piece in her new home.  What a great daily reminder of the beginning of your life together.

Via Dani Stephenson Photography

Via Dani Stephenson Photography

Another art piece I found fell in love with on Pinterest was featured at a Minnesota wedding.  The tree design alone would be a great piece but it means so much more with all of your loved ones names on it!

balloon finger prints

Similar piece by Peachwik on Etsy. Click to check out the shop.

I’ll mention just one more art piece, finger print guest books.  Now, I’m not so sure if I’m crazy about this or if I dislike it.  Who wants to dip their finger in an ink pad when their dressed in their nicest attire?  I know not everyone is as clutzy as me and therefore it isn’t absolutely certain that they will wind up covered in ink but, if it was me, I’d end the night with an ink mustache and lots of prints all over myself and probably my date as well.  I do, however, love the balloon print.  I would like this idea even better if everyone had also signed their name along with their print because most of us don’t have a FBI database we can run those prints through so as to remember who they belong to.


Just as good or maybe better than having a guest book that doubles as an art piece is something you bring out on special occasions, like a game.  I love the idea of having guests sign Jenga game blocks.  You’ll likely bring the game out when friends and family come to visit and it’s a perfect opportunity and prompt to reflect on the happy day together.


This puzzle guest book is also really cute!  Not only could it give guests something to collectively work on at the wedding but it’s something you can hand down to your kiddos when they’re developing their problem solving skills.

Via Something Turquoise

Via Something Turquoise

And another interesting spin on the guest book is guests notes.  This nature inspired wedding had an antique typewriter set up just for their loved ones to leave  messages of love and advice for the couple to read together in the future.

My guest book idea is a mix of the traditional (because there will be a book) and the new.  I will also be asking guests to write words of love and advice because reading over them later will be a wonderful opportunity for me to get emotional and sentimental.  The problem with my guest book idea is that it requires the use of a Polaroid camera.  If you have any tips on where to buy or rent one, let me know!  And no, I’m not posting my inspiration photo because, Hey, there have to be some surprises come the wedding day right!???

I found it!


I finally found a copy of Brides of Oklahoma and of course I bought it! Can I just say nearly $10 for a magazine is kinda pricy but worth it since there is almost NOTHING on the internet to help with wedding planning in Oklahoma. If I lived in Dallas or Austin or even 1.5 hrs southwest of here in OKC it might be easier but I can’t find anything on Tulsa. We’re still searching for a photographer, videographer and a musician or two for the ceremony and cocktail hour. I’m going to go peruse my new magazine for leads! Readers I’m being 100% serious when I ask  beg PLEAD you to share any helpful websites, blogs, tips for a bride planning an Okie wedding!

Wedding Alter Inspiration

Time for another Wedding Wednesday! We’ve selected our venue which, to me, seemed the most daunting task. It wasn’t exactly what I had envisioned when we started planning but it is very beautiful. My family was able to come by the venue, Canyon Crossing in Sand Springs, right before the engagement party and they all gave it a thumbs up! Each of my aunt’s had a gorgeous wedding so the fact that they approve of my venue choice made me very excited!

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My precious Granma taking a peek behind the pergola / ceremony site.

My precious Granma taking a peek behind the pergola / ceremony site.

Canyon Crossing was the first place we looked. When we walked in, I kind of knew it was the place. I immediately started envisioning where different parts of the day would happen… I would enter through here, the alter would be there, we’d serve late night s’mores here etc. But because it was the first place we toured, we decided to continue looking but nothing else really made either of us as excited as the first option. After a month of searching we called back and saved our date.

Now comes the real work, dreaming up the decor. I always thought I’d be one of those girls who was super excited to plan her wedding but I’ve realized I’m not. I am excited about being married but I am just not excited about the planning. I’d love to pay someone else to handle it but since I don’t have the funds for that, this will be a very hands-on and heavy on the DIY wedding. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE looking at beautiful wedding photos but the thought of making choices for that special day is terrifying to me. What if it turns out bad or ugly? I just want everything to look like a magazine!

While looking at the venue this second time I realized that the alter area is very evident which is great because I Richard won’t have to build something but it also kind of plain which gives you lots of decorating options. There are good bones there just ready to be beautified but how, I’m not sure. So as I always do, I headed over to Pinterest to find some picture perfect ideas. Here are some of my favorites that I think I might be able to replicate. Some have links you can follow others do not.


1. The Floral Curtains:  I like the impact these beautiful curtains bring. The part in the curtains also draws attention to the main attraction.


For more on how the bride DIY’ed this beautiful background click the image.


2. Simple Hanging Decor:  I love how simple this look is and how it compliments a beautiful natural location like ours. It doesn’t seem like this project would be that difficult to pull off on our own either.


3. Asymmetric Floral Arch:  I really like that the entire arch isn’t thick with flowers and the area that is full is set at a jaunty angle. It’s unique and is a great way to add some color. And it may not be quite as expensive as a full arch brimming with flowers.


4. Flowers + Curtains:  I like the mixture of the gauzy fabric and the thick bunches of flowers that keeps it grounded. I really that the arch has a thin silhouette but the more I look at it the more I think 80s music video.  Is anyone else catching that vibe?


Check out the photographer’s Facebook page by clicking the image.

5. Outdoor Chandelier:  This look may also be a little too ritzy but I keep envisioning how great an antique chandelier would look!


Check out the artists website by clicking the photo.

6. Dream Ceremony Backdrop:  This is my FAVORITE alter idea but I think it would distract from or obscure the beautiful natural background during the ceremony.

Which one was your favorite? How was your wedding alter decorated?  Also follow me here on Pinterest!

Wedding Wednesday: Before Driving Into the Sunset

I’ve decided to try to contain wedding posts specifically to Wednesdays because I don’t want to go overboard and seem obsessive, even though I may be just a smidge. So the theme title is cheesy but I love cheesy and I love alliteration! So with no further ado here goes the first Wedding Wednesday post.

Since we have yet to even begin the process of searching for a venue I am focusing on the tiny details that I know we’ll love and will fit no matter where the wedding is held. One of those tiny details includes the send off. At first I really liked bubbles and then I attended one too many weddings of close friends or family members who used the soapy orbs as their send off. After bubbles I moved on to sparklers but my Aunt Lisa included those in her beautiful wedding. I once thought I’d like confetti and started saving the by-products of whole punching but now I think I’d rather not create a mess that will then have to be swept up by someone or worse will just create eco-unfriendly liter. So here’s what I’m nearly settled on…



This craft seems easy enough and is composed of supplies that I can start purchasing now a little at a time and can knock out quickly with the help of a few extra hands… Don’t everyone jump up at once. I found this DIY on Pinterest… as always. The pin links to a blog called The Twips but the DIY was actually put together by someone named Rhiannon (did Stevie Nicks‘ voice pop out of nowhere and sing that name to you???? No… Just me?) of Hey Gorgeous Events. It’s a great way to incorporate a little more of my wedding colors which include lots of green shades from emerald to mint!

The best part is I already have plans for all the wands that aren’t snatched up and taken home following the wedding. I will disassemble them and use the jingle bells to create a garland for our Christmas tree. The ribbon will become either a wreath for our front door or will be slithered into a glass ball ornament or maybe both! And the dowel rods… hmm I don’t know yet but I’ll find something. I love ideas that can not only make the wedding beautiful but also our little nest. We are on a tight budget after all and it will always remind us of our happy day!

Leave comments please!!! Let me know what you think about the ribbon wand idea or if you have any suggestions for the dowel rods conundrum.

Let them eat cake?

To have a cake or not to have a cake that is the question… well at least the one that is causing me quite a bit of grief early on.  Neither Richard and I are too keen on having a cake.  Cake isn’t his favorite dessert, unless it happens to be an ooey gooey yummy cake.  I also dislike most store-bought cakes.  They always cost a lot and leaving you feeling disappointed because a box mix cake would/could have tasted just as good or better.  That being said, I think the tradition of cutting the cakes is a very cute and sweet one and affords some great photo ops.  Plus there are lots of traditions that we already have plans of eschewing so perhaps keeping this one is a good idea.

Right now the thought is to make our own little two or three layer cake that we can use for the photo op.  But according to the recent The Knot wedding magazine, DIY-ing the wedding cake is considered a BIG mistake.  Article author Eustacia Huen argues:

“Seriously, you wouldn’t even consider doing one of the most defining elements yourself, would you?… a wedding cake disaster is hard to fix.  Plus, decorating and even just transporting a wedding cake is a serious project that’s best left to someone who knows what they’re doing – and doesn’t have their own wedding to be thinking about.”

I do agree a cake is easy to mess up.  On the other hand we are looking for something simple, perhaps that DIY flair would add a touch of whimsy and add less pressure to the process.  Here are a few five cakes I’ve seen on where else… Pinterest of course… that I think are attainable goals.

3 tier cake, cupcakes and pie

 1) Love that this cake has a different type of dessert on each tier.  That’s one of our biggest conundrums which desserts should we serve at the wedding?  We love so many all kinds of sweets! How can we just choose one!

buttercream ruffle cake

2) This cake is simple yet elegant.  I also love that the blog it comes from has DIY instructions and has plenty of other great recipes and info that the baker in me can’t wait to try.

Cake with Flag Toppers

3) This cake is simple but packs a lot of visual punch from the interesting color choice to the tall flag cake toppers!  It’s such an interesting and unique little cake.

Fresh Flowers Cake

4) You would never know this cake is simple thanks to the gorgeous flowers decorating it.

Lemon cake simple

5) If you can read the little sign in the background this cake is a pretty unique choice… lemon!  Richard and I love lemon cake!  I also like that the shape of each tier is a little wonky but that makes them even more charming.  The unique topper and retro cake stand add to the non-traditional appeal.

cake info graphic

We also found this cool graphic that gives pan size to people fed ratios!  That’s some great info to have if you’re DIY-ing your wedding cake.  Of course if we did choose to make a small pastel we would be sure to load the sweets table with lots of our other preferred desserts such as cupcakes, cookies and s’mores.

Laced with Wedding Joy

Dress | Francesca’s (similar) // Shoes | JC Penny ($13!!!) // Necklace | Francesca’s // Earrings | Francesca’s

Sticking with the wedding theme, this week’s style photo features an outfit I wore to a friends wedding.  I found it in a frenzied shopping trip the morning before the event.

The wedding was being held in Ponca City which is about two hours away from Tulsa.  Not only did I need an outfit for the wedding but so did Richard.  All of Richard’s dress close is still in Edmond and I realized I had absolutely nothing that was wedding appropriate in my closet.  Either it was too casual or it was a winter/fall dress that seemed much to dark for the summer afternoon wedding we were about to attend.  I ended up spending about $70 on a new dress and shoes.  Not bad for a 3 hour shopping trip that included a gift, gift wrap, a card and two outfits both including shoes.

There are three things I really loved about this dress.  The first is it’s retro feel that I think is really due to the lace pattern and overall shape.  I usually stick with classic pieces but I do love me styles from the 50s and 60s.  I also loved the color on this dress.  I don’t own many coral-y pink things but I love the vibrant hue.  The last thing was the dresses empire waist and sweetheart neckline.  The empire waist hits me exactly at my smallest part.  And I know the sweetheart neckline isn’t really visible in these photos but the dresses lining leaves an allusion sweetheart and the lace allows just enough skin to peek through.

I styled the outfit with a multi-strand pearl necklace, some interesting gold tear-drop earrings, a coral and gold ring (one of my favorite flea market finds) and a gold chain necklace converted into a multi-strand bracelet (another flea market score for $1).  I did different jewelry for the actual wedding wearing my light pink tear drop necklace.  I decided to change it up for this style post because as Richard pointed out I wore that necklace last week.  So what do you think, wedding appropriate or not?

Grainy-ness and bad focus aside, I think we’re cuties.